Tuesday, 3 January 2012


In my opinion, humans are naturally attracted to anyone that has good looks. What exactly is love, though? If I spend a very long time with a certain person, I get used to her mannerisms, I start to feel close to her, but does it mean that I love her? Do I really love her, or am I just so used to her that I can not be with anybody else?

I know that relationships mostly start off with two people that really like each other for whatever reason. In most cases it is due to infatuation. This infatuation gradually fades away and the real relationship begins.
Love can then, be defined as appreciating the faults and imperfections of someone while at the same time truly enjoying their company.

It is natural to find other people attractive, but what happens if logically speaking, you find a better partner that is interested in you. What happens when you meet someone, who is (in your opinion) much better looking than your current partner? This is what I believe, ruins relationships, if we think of it in a biological point of view. This probably does not apply to everyone, but from my observations, I believe that this could be the key factor in breaking up romantic relationships.

The thinking where, you will choose a better quality of a certain product rather than the damaged goods is natural for all human beings. What causes some people to not follow their instincts? I guess it is because one is so used to the presence of their significant other that they can not imagine living their lives with other people. But there is this feeling in their gut that they do not want to be with that certain person anymore.
If that is the case then, does that mean some love relationships are like a trap? Breaking up is very painful because you are so used to that person's company yet you find so many other girls attractive that you want to break free and do whatever you want.

The sad part is that some relationships, go to the point where they can not tolerate each other anymore. They keep breaking up and making up but at some point in time they end up going with other people because they desperately want to be free from this trap. I pity people who are stuck in a relationship that gives them the company that they need yet they can not satisfy their hunger for sexual relations with people they find attractive, even a chance to flirt is taken away from them. What if this is the definition of love for some people? Maybe not.
Love to many people is the typical love story in movies. Meeting someone you have a crush on and hitting it off with them. Mutual feelings, shy moments and then slowly growing to love each other.
But there is a flaw in this thinking. Love is something you work towards because, nobody is perfect. The ideal partner does not exist. Fights are bound to break out therefore it is withstanding those fights that defines love.

What is the view on forgiving someone who has cheated on their partners? Some people may say that they are blinded because they only want the around because there is nobody else that was there for them. They are like one entity. Love is about unison between two people who have endured many things together and they simply can not be without each other. This relationship should not have any doubts concerning choosing a "better" partner. This relationship must overlook the physical traits of other potential mates. I guess that is what separates human beings from other animals.

The ideal world would have each person to have their ideal partner. The one that loves them for who they are. I guess it is only possible in our dreams.

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